But it seems American relationship expert, Terry
Deron doesn't agree with him as he called the post stupid. Read what Terry
deron posted after the cut...
"I was sent this post
and asked to give my thoughts on it. This post was intended for women in Africa
and their dating culture is very different than it is in the United States. So
for American women I think this advice is stupid as hell for a variety of
reasons and any woman that would use dating strategies like these is setting
herself up for failure. For starters I think the whole idea of a woman ending a
relationship after a year simply because they aren’t married is dumb. Women
that date with this kind of preset timeline almost always ruin relationships that
could have potentially lead to marriage by trying to force the issue. Which is
exactly what is described here. There are no guarantees in any relationship so
anyone that ever expects to get them has unrealistic expectations about how
real life works! Cutting off bedroom benefits equates to withholding sex to
manipulate the man. Another very destructive and unproductive behavior. Doing
stupid stuff like that is much more likely to lead to cheating or a break up
than it is to lead to an engagement. This is basically a woman passive
aggressively giving her bf an ultimatum to marry her and I don’t think this
tactic would be very successful at all. A woman that tries this with a man that
is financially secure and possesses the qualities that most women view as husband/father
material that is already committed to her is a damn fool that’s going to end up
looking and feeling like an asshole in the end! Healthy relationships are
formed organically and they don’t have preplanned timelines. This is an example
of a woman with a severely flawed view of how relationships work destroying her
relationship from the inside out! DON’T BE THIS CHIC!"Read Ik Ogbonna's reply below...
"Popular American
Relationship expert @terryderon had called my advice to the ladies "stupid
as hell" for reasons best known to him so Sir here is my reply to you...
My Father once said "When a man meets a woman he already knows what he
wants from/with her". That being said ...A man won't always tell you but
he will definitely ALWAYS show you the intention he has towards you . Women,on
the other hand,more often than not see what they wish to see thereby making
excuses for the Guy and whatever shitty treatment they might get from him. The
society we find ourselves has subconsciously placed the men as "the shot
callers" because the African woman is not expected to propose to the man.A
man should be honest enough to define the nature of relationship he has with a
woman,because some ladies do wish to settle down as they are biologically limited
when it comes to childbirth and all,this is not saying "desperation"
in anyway and it's not nice to give someone fake hopes. But at the same time
ladies,listen carefully: In order to protect yourself from men wasting your
precious time ,my sisters,you need to LOVE YOURSELF enough not to settle for an
incomplete "deal" ,excuses,and not to settle for small piece of
attention all because you are lonely. A man that truly wants you will show you
and the world around you that you are his woman and you won't need to force
it,guess,doubt,wander ,no matter the circumstances. With all due respect
@terryderon just like you rightly said the dating culture for the Africans and
Americans is different but regardless a Woman's need is UNIVERSAL."
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