Sports enthusiast and former athletes in Bosnia. have taken it upon themselves to reclaim some of the glory sarajevo savored as host of the 1984 Olympic and in the process rekindle the fame of international co-operation.
Saturday 29 October 2016
Sports Entusiast Repairs devastated winter Olympic Track
Sports enthusiast and former athletes in Bosnia. have taken it upon themselves to reclaim some of the glory sarajevo savored as host of the 1984 Olympic and in the process rekindle the fame of international co-operation.
Friday 28 October 2016
Once a would be Suicide Bomber, Now a Fighter for peace.
Shifa Al-Qudsi, she knew that once she puts on the explosive belt, there would be no turning back. She knew it would rip her limb from limb, reducing her to a bloody pulp. She knew it would leave her only daughter an orphan.
But she also knew this: It would kill Israelis. With luck a lot of them, and that was reason enough to do it.
She was a suicide Bomber, ore at least tried to be. A Palestinian hair dresser driven to anger, despair and hopelessness, she volunteered to carry out an attack on Israelis that would strike a blow, she thought for her beleaguered people. " i wanted to seek revenge" she said.
But she was arrested before she could act and today, after 6 years in a Israeli prison, she has transformed her self from a would be angel of death to a messenger of peace. Now working with a group that brings Palestinians and Israelis together to advocate an end to the conflict.
Nigerian : Army releases child suspects.
The UN Says It has negotiated the release of 876 children in Nigeria,who were being held by the Army over possible link to Islamist Militants.
The children who had previously lived in areas controlled by Boko-Haram, were held in a Military Barracks in the north eastern city of Maiduguri.
New Email in Clinton case came from device once used by Anthony weiner
A new throve of Emails that appears pertinent to the now-closed investigation into Hillary Clinton private Email server was discovered after the FBI Seized at least one electronic device shared by Anthony D.Weiner and his estranged wife, Huma Abedin, a top Aide to Mrs.Clinton, Federal law enforcement Official said Friday.
90 Migrants dies after Boat fell apart in the Mediterranean sea
At least 90 migrants are thought to have died when their rickety boat broke apart in the Mediterranean sea after leaving the Libyan coast, the Libyan Navy said.
ISIS Kills more than 200 as battle for Mosul Intensifies.
Islamic states Fighters have killed scores of people and are using tens of thousands more as human shields as governments and kurdish forces battle to reclaim mosul, United Nations human rights investigators reported on friday.
Chicago O'Hare Plane fire: American Airline jet aborts take off.
An American Airline plane has caught fire on the run way of Chicago O'Hare Airport while trying to take off.
The Boeing 767 Bound for Miami Blew a tyre and damaged and Engine, the Federal Aviation Administration said.
The Pilot aborted the take off and evacuated everyone on board via emergency chutes as black smokes billowed from the plane.
Seven passengers and a flight attendant were slightly injured and taken to the hospital.
Nine crew members and 161 passengers were on board.
We are taking care of our customers and crew members and are re-accommodating our passengers on another flight to Miami.
An attacker shot by the Kenyan police in front of the American Embassy
The shot rang right in front of the American Embassy on thursday afternoon.
The knife wielding assailant attacked an armed Kenyan officer guarding an entrance to the American Embassy's visa section, which was closed at the time.
Chadian Army on Patrol after Chasing out Boko-Haram.
The military convoy was rumbling across the river near the border last month in Diffa, Niger , when soldier suddenly realized they were surrounded. More than 100 Boko-haram fighters, some of them on horse backs had encircled the vehicles, ready to strike.
Thai-man will serve up to 5 Years for attacking U.S.Tourist.
A thai man would serve a maximum of five years in prison after pleading guilty to obscene behavior and causing serious injury to a New-York tourist, who fell off a cliff in southern thailand, as she fled his initial attack, the authorities said on Friday.
Phillipine Mayor Accused of Drug Links by Duterte killed by police
After president Rodrigo Duterte publicly named him as a drug suspect last summer, the mayor of the small Philippine town said he was not worried .
If you are not guilty, why should you be afraid? the mayor, Samsudin Dimaukom, told the new york times in august,
Prince Mikasa, brother of Former Japanese Emperor Hirohito, dies at 100
Prince Mikasa, who was a younger brother of the former Japanese Emperor Hirohito and who became an unspoken voice against Japanese Barbarity during world war II, died October 17th at a hospital in tokyo. He was 100.
The imperial house hold Agency announced the death. Japanese media reports said he had been hospitalized since May, Initially because of Pneumonia.
Prince Mikasa, fifth in line to the Chrysanthemum Throne, is the uncle of the current Emperor, Akihito. Akihito succeeded his father , Hirohito, whose 62 years reign encompassed world war II and continued until his death in 1989.
Prince Mikasa, also known as Takahito was born in the Tokyo royal palace on December 2nd 1915, he was the youngest son of Emperor Taisho and Empress Teimei, He attended schools for nobility and royalty before enrolling in a military academy where he graduated in 1936.
He married Yuriko Takagi, and they had 5 Children..Google to read more about Prince Mikasa.
Indonesia's Top court weighs ban on sex outside Marriage.
Indonesia's highest court is deliberating whether sex outside marriage should be made illegal in the world's third largest democracy, In the latest push by the conservative Islamist Organisations to restructure the country's relatively secular legal codes.
Tiny Ugandan Village now world's fourth Largest refugee camp.
Three months ago, the town of Bidi Bidi in the northern Uganda was mostly rugged grassland, peckled with a few small buildings and homes.
Now Bidi Bidi is the home to the world fourth biggest refugee camp, according to the united nations officials - 160,000 South Sudanese who fled the most recent spasm in their country's civil war.
Syrian Rebels Opens major counter-offensive amid siege of Aleppo.
Syrian rebels launches intense artillery and suicide attacks as part of a possible last ditch offensive announced Friday seeking to break the governments siege of opposition controlled districts of Aleppo.
Thursday 13 October 2016
Get to know someone before making a decision.
we are cautious of how much of our selves we reveal to other people, in a new relationship we tend to wanna know everything about the other person, most people fake whom they are and tend to impersonate just to be in a relationship. you really need to be careful on the kinda people you talk to about your personality and bio data , the world is a wicked place.
Most ladies are scouting for guys that are rich and to get them, they portray to come from a rich home, and that apply same to guys. we really must be careful. Gold diggers around and no one wanna fall prey on this kinda people. some people are out there to render you useless, and squander all you have without pity. be careful.
Most ladies are scouting for guys that are rich and to get them, they portray to come from a rich home, and that apply same to guys. we really must be careful. Gold diggers around and no one wanna fall prey on this kinda people. some people are out there to render you useless, and squander all you have without pity. be careful.
Relationships aren't about sex
Great sex is a wonderful thing, and if there isn't any sexual attraction even at the beginning the relationship stands no chance, but the best relationship will last a lifetime and your libido may not if your relationship is built on sex alone.
It is so important to really know what you're looking for in love, the danger is that you will mistake lust for love and that you will think because sex is great.
Most people going for a relationship are looking for perfect sexual partner, and sex is their priority in searching for a partner , consequently most of this people have a great sex life and dont understand why they dont have a successful long term relationship.
You dont build you relationship on sex and people take it as their first priority when looking for a partner. Build a good relationship in love and understanding and trust me you would have a loving and outstanding relationship.
It is so important to really know what you're looking for in love, the danger is that you will mistake lust for love and that you will think because sex is great.
Most people going for a relationship are looking for perfect sexual partner, and sex is their priority in searching for a partner , consequently most of this people have a great sex life and dont understand why they dont have a successful long term relationship.
You dont build you relationship on sex and people take it as their first priority when looking for a partner. Build a good relationship in love and understanding and trust me you would have a loving and outstanding relationship.
Certain people are off limits, You know who they are.
Suppose youre naturally tidy, i mean really neurotically tidy, cant stand to leave the washing for later and always put away everything away after use. And imagine you ended up with a partner who like to spread their possession about and do things at their own will and timing. would you become a messy person to keep them happy, then why would you expect them to become tidy.
The fact is that you cant ask people to change, and even if they wanted to, they couldnt do it. sure they can modify their behavior but they cant change their personality. you might persuade your messy partner to hangup the bathroom towel instead of leaving it on the floor, but i bet they will hang it up all crooked and it would drive you mad because you cant turn them into a tidy person.
Meantime the kitchen would always be messy but clean in their own eyes, the floor of the car would be disgusting in your view but not theirs.
And its not just a question of being messy or tidy, you cant stop someone from being irresponsible, or football obsessed or workaholic or shy or easily stressed.
so if you cant live with this characters dont get involved, whatever you do dont embark on a relationship with someone thinking i can cope with this bit of their personality, you cant change them, you will just make the both of you miserable.
i know no one is exactly perfect, everyone can be irritating from time to time in a relationship (including you) - but youre looking for someone whose irritating habit are worth putting up with, not for someone who you can mold to your personal requirement.
Tips for staying strong in a long distance relationship
Many people believe that long distance relationship is never gonna work, your family may discourage it and your friends might wanna talk you out of it and not to take it seriously cos you might end up heart broken. Nobody said its going to be easy the extra distance distance makes thing more un-achievable, things could get complicated and you could get sad about the whole event and lonely but however the extra distance make the simplest thing the sweetest.
Long distance relationship may be tough but its got its own surprises too, to keep your love alive and strong. Here are some tips to keep your long distance relationship strong.
Avoid excessive communication:
It is unwise to be over sticky and possessive, you two dont really have to communicate for 12 hours a day to keep the relationship going, Many couple think that they need to compensate for the distance by doing more, this isnt true cos it might only make things worse soon you would get tired of loving.
See it as an opportunity:
If you wanna live together, you first need to learn to live apart, Anonymously view it as a learning process to the building of the both of you, see it as a test for the love you have for each other, you should believe that through this experience the both of you would be bound by love together and you would even be stronger.
Communicate regularly and creatively:
Greet each other goodmorning and goodnight everyday, on top of that try to update your partner on your everyday life and happening, to up the game send a picture or an audio or video clip from time to time, by putting this effort you make the other person feel loved and attended to.
Talk dirty with each other:
sexual tension is undoubtedly one of the most important things between couples, sexual desire is like glue, that keeps both parties from drifting apart, not only is sex a biological need, its an emotional one as well, keep the flame burning by sending each other teasing sms filled with sexual inuendo.
Avoid dangerous situation:
If you already know that going to clubs and keeping late nights would displease your partner, then you should either 1 not do or 2 tell your partner before time so as to re-assure him or her, do not be careless about this sort of matter because your partner is only going to be extra worried or suspicious.
you could set yourself a trap unknowingly by clubbing or keeping late night by going out with someone whose flirting with you, you need to recognize the danger before entering the situation. dont just listen to your heart, listen to your mind.
Do things together:
Play online games together, sing to each other on skype, video call together while taking a walk outside, go online shopping together and buy each other gifts, you really have to be creative and spontaneous about it.
Make visit to each other:
visits are the highlights of every long relationship, after all the waiting, yearning and abstinence, you finally get to meet each other to fulfill all the kissing, hugging and holding hand etc which are common to other couples but extra intimate to long distance relationship, it would be like fireworks, glitter bomb, butterflies and rainbows everywhere.
Have a goal in mind:
what do we wanna achieve at the end of the day, how long are we gonna be apart, what about the future? this are questions you two need to ask yourselves, the truth is no couple can be in a long relationship for ever, eventually we all need to settle down.
Stay alone with each other:
talk about your feelings or fear, insecurity, jealousy and apathy, dont try to deal with things all by yourself, be open and honest with each other, let your partner help and give you the support you need.
Keep track of each other social media activities:
liking eachother photo on facebook and instagram, tweet each other, share things on each others wall, show that you care and be cool about stalking each other.
Get a good messaging application:
this is extremely important because texting is the most frequent way now to communicate, you need a good messaging application on your phones that allow interaction beyond word and emoticons. eg:bbm, whats app etc
Give each other petnames:
Because its cool and keeps the lovey - dovey going.
Long distance relationship may be tough but its got its own surprises too, to keep your love alive and strong. Here are some tips to keep your long distance relationship strong.
Avoid excessive communication:
It is unwise to be over sticky and possessive, you two dont really have to communicate for 12 hours a day to keep the relationship going, Many couple think that they need to compensate for the distance by doing more, this isnt true cos it might only make things worse soon you would get tired of loving.
See it as an opportunity:
If you wanna live together, you first need to learn to live apart, Anonymously view it as a learning process to the building of the both of you, see it as a test for the love you have for each other, you should believe that through this experience the both of you would be bound by love together and you would even be stronger.
Communicate regularly and creatively:
Greet each other goodmorning and goodnight everyday, on top of that try to update your partner on your everyday life and happening, to up the game send a picture or an audio or video clip from time to time, by putting this effort you make the other person feel loved and attended to.
Talk dirty with each other:
sexual tension is undoubtedly one of the most important things between couples, sexual desire is like glue, that keeps both parties from drifting apart, not only is sex a biological need, its an emotional one as well, keep the flame burning by sending each other teasing sms filled with sexual inuendo.
Avoid dangerous situation:
If you already know that going to clubs and keeping late nights would displease your partner, then you should either 1 not do or 2 tell your partner before time so as to re-assure him or her, do not be careless about this sort of matter because your partner is only going to be extra worried or suspicious.
you could set yourself a trap unknowingly by clubbing or keeping late night by going out with someone whose flirting with you, you need to recognize the danger before entering the situation. dont just listen to your heart, listen to your mind.
Do things together:
Play online games together, sing to each other on skype, video call together while taking a walk outside, go online shopping together and buy each other gifts, you really have to be creative and spontaneous about it.
Make visit to each other:
visits are the highlights of every long relationship, after all the waiting, yearning and abstinence, you finally get to meet each other to fulfill all the kissing, hugging and holding hand etc which are common to other couples but extra intimate to long distance relationship, it would be like fireworks, glitter bomb, butterflies and rainbows everywhere.
Have a goal in mind:
what do we wanna achieve at the end of the day, how long are we gonna be apart, what about the future? this are questions you two need to ask yourselves, the truth is no couple can be in a long relationship for ever, eventually we all need to settle down.
Stay alone with each other:
talk about your feelings or fear, insecurity, jealousy and apathy, dont try to deal with things all by yourself, be open and honest with each other, let your partner help and give you the support you need.
Keep track of each other social media activities:
liking eachother photo on facebook and instagram, tweet each other, share things on each others wall, show that you care and be cool about stalking each other.
Get a good messaging application:
this is extremely important because texting is the most frequent way now to communicate, you need a good messaging application on your phones that allow interaction beyond word and emoticons. eg:bbm, whats app etc
Give each other petnames:
Because its cool and keeps the lovey - dovey going.
10 Truths to keep your relationship healthy and alive
I think it's easy to make things
more complicated than they need to be. Here are some basic rules of the
relationship road that will keep you headed in the right direction
1. Successful relationships take work. They
don't happen in a vacuum. They occur when the couples in them take the risk of
sharing what it is that's going on in their hearts and heads.
2. You can only change yourself, not your
partner. If you love someone and
think that after a while he or she will alter behaviors you find uncomfortable,
think again. If you want changes, put them on the table. so your partner knows
what you need.
3. All arguments stem from our own fear or pain. When
upset occurs, check out what's going on inside of you rather than get angry
with your partner. Truth is that we usually aren't upset for the reasons we
think we are.
4. Understand that men and women are very
different. We're not from Mars or Venus; we're not even in
the same solar system. understanding and
celebrating our differences will make living together more peaceful,
interesting, and fun.
5. Honor each other in some way every day. Every
morning you have the opportunity to make your relationship sweeter and deeper
by recommitting to your mate. Feeling respected and cherished by the one you
love makes life much nicer.
6. Anger is a waste of
time. Anger is also a relationship killer, because it
makes you self-absorbed and won't allow you to see the good. If you are annoyed
with your mate, give yourself some time to calm down and then gently discuss
what's going on for you.
7. Get regular tune-ups. Go
to a couples workshop, talk with a counselor, or read a relationship book
together at least once a year. Even if you don't think you need it, you will
pick up a couple of ideas, and the process alone will strengthen your
connection.
8. Find a way to become and stay best friends. For
some this sounds unromantic, but for those who live it, most say it's the best
part of their time together.
9. Be responsible for your own happiness. No
other person can make you happy. It's something you have to do on your own. If
you feel it's your partner's fault, think again, and look within to find out
what piece may be missing for you.
10. Give what you want to get. Our
needs change with time. If you'd like to feel understood, try being more
understanding. If you want to feel more love, try giving more. It's a simple
program that really works.
There are no guarantees, but
couples who practice these techniques have longer and stronger relationships
than those who are not proactive in their love.
10 Habits of couples in strong and healthy relationships
what makes a healthy romantic relationship differs from couples to couples. Forming an trusting and positive partnership takes effort and time, and unfortunately, it doesn't just happen overnight. For any relationship to grow strong and stay strong, you need to put in some work.
Below are some habit that would help you create and maintain a happy healthy relationship:
Communication :
communication is simply the key and one of the most important qualities in a healthy relationship, however not everyone knows how to communicate properly or even communicate at all. Happy and healthy relationship have this game down., they vocalize their love for one another saying "i love you" often and offering compliments to the other. they also discuss the bad instead of sweeping issues under the rug. In order to move forward and grow you two need to be truly able to talk about your feeling, no matter how awkward and uncomfortable it feels, it will make a lasting long and fulfilling relationship.
Respect:
Aretha Franklin sand a whole song about it, so you know its gotta be important. Respecting your partner comes in many forms. Maintaining a joyful relationship means respecting your partners time, heart, character and trust. However there are many things people do in relationship that can break down respect, like name calling, talking negatively about the other to friends and family or threatening to leave the relationship.
Quality time and not Quantity time:
Its all about quality over quantity. It doesn't matter how much time you spend together, the most important is about the quality of this time. There is a huge difference between having a huge dinner and talking about your day at work, versus having dinner while sitting on a couch watching the latest episode of a tv soap opera. Its time to zone out together and enjoy distractions but very crucial to make sure you two are still engaging and spending quality time to maintain a very deep connection.
Time Apart:
Spending time with your partner is so very important but just as important as spending time apart, being able to do your own thing and remain independent is very vital, when couple spend too much time together, it can create an unhealthy co-dependence.
Maintaining healthy boundaries and some autonomy will make for a long lasting relationship.
Love language:
Gary chapman came up with the notion that men and women have 5 love language, people have unique ways of feeling loved.
Appreciation:
Often we forget to let other people in our life know that we appreciate them, we think it but we don't remember to show it. This occurs in our romantic relationships as well. show your special someone that you love him or her , and this could be done with cards, flowers, words, act of kindness or more.
Negative effect:
Sometimes we get in positive or negative effect, sometimes we hate our jobs, are annoyed with our friends, our boyfriend or girl friend is getting on our nerve. Nobody is perfect, so instead of focusing on our bad, lets make a conscious effort to look at the good.
Choose your battle:
There are arguments to be had in every relationship, its so crucial to bring issues to the forefront and work through the hard times together. I don't think its right arguing over irrelevant issue is wise, choose your battle wisely because people in happy and healthy relationship do.
Sex:
for couples sex is simple, the more you have it ,the more you want it, same as the other side of it, the less you have, it the less you want it. Spice it up couples and keep your sex life alive and interesting.
No comparisons:
most couples often make the huge and great mistake of comparing their relationship with other peoples relation and that's so very wrong, you don't compare your lives with others, what job people have, financial stability and clothing. The happiest couple don't look at the grasses at the other side, they are happy with the view of their own front door.
Below are some habit that would help you create and maintain a happy healthy relationship:
Communication :
communication is simply the key and one of the most important qualities in a healthy relationship, however not everyone knows how to communicate properly or even communicate at all. Happy and healthy relationship have this game down., they vocalize their love for one another saying "i love you" often and offering compliments to the other. they also discuss the bad instead of sweeping issues under the rug. In order to move forward and grow you two need to be truly able to talk about your feeling, no matter how awkward and uncomfortable it feels, it will make a lasting long and fulfilling relationship.
Respect:
Aretha Franklin sand a whole song about it, so you know its gotta be important. Respecting your partner comes in many forms. Maintaining a joyful relationship means respecting your partners time, heart, character and trust. However there are many things people do in relationship that can break down respect, like name calling, talking negatively about the other to friends and family or threatening to leave the relationship.
Quality time and not Quantity time:
Its all about quality over quantity. It doesn't matter how much time you spend together, the most important is about the quality of this time. There is a huge difference between having a huge dinner and talking about your day at work, versus having dinner while sitting on a couch watching the latest episode of a tv soap opera. Its time to zone out together and enjoy distractions but very crucial to make sure you two are still engaging and spending quality time to maintain a very deep connection.
Time Apart:
Spending time with your partner is so very important but just as important as spending time apart, being able to do your own thing and remain independent is very vital, when couple spend too much time together, it can create an unhealthy co-dependence.
Maintaining healthy boundaries and some autonomy will make for a long lasting relationship.
Love language:
Gary chapman came up with the notion that men and women have 5 love language, people have unique ways of feeling loved.
- Affirmation
- receiving gifts
- quality times
- acts of service
- physical touch
Appreciation:
Often we forget to let other people in our life know that we appreciate them, we think it but we don't remember to show it. This occurs in our romantic relationships as well. show your special someone that you love him or her , and this could be done with cards, flowers, words, act of kindness or more.
Negative effect:
Sometimes we get in positive or negative effect, sometimes we hate our jobs, are annoyed with our friends, our boyfriend or girl friend is getting on our nerve. Nobody is perfect, so instead of focusing on our bad, lets make a conscious effort to look at the good.
Choose your battle:
There are arguments to be had in every relationship, its so crucial to bring issues to the forefront and work through the hard times together. I don't think its right arguing over irrelevant issue is wise, choose your battle wisely because people in happy and healthy relationship do.
Sex:
for couples sex is simple, the more you have it ,the more you want it, same as the other side of it, the less you have, it the less you want it. Spice it up couples and keep your sex life alive and interesting.
No comparisons:
most couples often make the huge and great mistake of comparing their relationship with other peoples relation and that's so very wrong, you don't compare your lives with others, what job people have, financial stability and clothing. The happiest couple don't look at the grasses at the other side, they are happy with the view of their own front door.
Wednesday 12 October 2016
Don't keep making the same mistakes.
Look i know this one sounds blatantly obvious, but you would be surprised on how many clever people do it over and over. you would think that if your ex was a nightmare from hell, you would never stare a million mile from anybody who reminded you of them, but subconsciously you might be heading straight for your ex carbon-copy.
Most people meet persons who are chronically jealous and insecure and at first sight you might not know but as times goes on you get across the traits, now what you were running from as at your previous relationship is here again standing right in front of you, he/she wanna know where you've been for the past hours and whom you're with. It doesn't have to be jealousy because something prompted this behavior, unfaithfulness from past relationships, over dependent men/women.
you don't need to run away from whom you truly care or love just because he/she is totally insecure of your where about, rather take things easy with your partner and sweetly laugh it off and tell her what she wanna hear and trust me so far you're not cheating on your partner then you're good to go. better still via communication on cellphone you call her every now and then to let them know your where about.
Most people meet persons who are chronically jealous and insecure and at first sight you might not know but as times goes on you get across the traits, now what you were running from as at your previous relationship is here again standing right in front of you, he/she wanna know where you've been for the past hours and whom you're with. It doesn't have to be jealousy because something prompted this behavior, unfaithfulness from past relationships, over dependent men/women.
you don't need to run away from whom you truly care or love just because he/she is totally insecure of your where about, rather take things easy with your partner and sweetly laugh it off and tell her what she wanna hear and trust me so far you're not cheating on your partner then you're good to go. better still via communication on cellphone you call her every now and then to let them know your where about.
Being less than 100% attractive is a great filter.
If you're not in a relationship at the moment, its so tempting to blame your look - maybe you're over weight, going bald, or getting bald under your eyes, or too short,or too tall, or wonky teeth.
well look around you, all over the world people fatter, balder, wrinklier, taller or shorter are happily settled in relationships with people who love them and they didn't all start out looking perfect. There are plenty of superficial men and women out there who choose their partner for their looks and really don't love the person underneath.
*****Anyone worth having, on the other hand, will love you for yourself and wont mind the physical imperfections (if they even consider them imperfection ), would you turn someone perfect down all course the person is overweight, or wore glasses, or had a big nose or lips? i hope not. So why would anyone worth while do it to you?.
Actually this isn't just about looks. The same is true for wealth and status eg: being poor or having no car or living in a rented apartments are great filters too.
Finally be confident of your look and know that you're attractive to anyone deep enough to care about the whole of you, and not just what you will look like on their arm, Trust me and when that someone finds you you will feel sexy and special and completely forget about your flaws.
well look around you, all over the world people fatter, balder, wrinklier, taller or shorter are happily settled in relationships with people who love them and they didn't all start out looking perfect. There are plenty of superficial men and women out there who choose their partner for their looks and really don't love the person underneath.
*****Anyone worth having, on the other hand, will love you for yourself and wont mind the physical imperfections (if they even consider them imperfection ), would you turn someone perfect down all course the person is overweight, or wore glasses, or had a big nose or lips? i hope not. So why would anyone worth while do it to you?.
Actually this isn't just about looks. The same is true for wealth and status eg: being poor or having no car or living in a rented apartments are great filters too.
Finally be confident of your look and know that you're attractive to anyone deep enough to care about the whole of you, and not just what you will look like on their arm, Trust me and when that someone finds you you will feel sexy and special and completely forget about your flaws.
Choose someone who makes you Laugh
This of course is the most absolutely most important thing of all in a relationship. If you choose your partner based on their looks, their status you could regret it later. Personalty traits can change, a confident person can be shattered anytime by an emotional trauma, a patient person can be irritable and frustrated.
But a good sense of humor could last you long after everything else has gone.
Laughter is worth its weight in Gold, a sense of humor is a very personal thing and some people just make you laugh more than the others. When you find the person who really makes you laugh more than anyone else, marry them, and that's my advice. You are almost guaranteed to fancy them because anyone who makes you laugh will be hugely attractive.
Marrying the person who makes you laugh is absolutely the right thing to do and never compromise on your sense of humor because it really is your top priority.
Finally when next you meet someone with gorgeous legs, sexy eyes, or a cute smile, don't be seduced straight away, see if they can tickle you without touching first. Laughing makes you live longer.
But a good sense of humor could last you long after everything else has gone.
Laughter is worth its weight in Gold, a sense of humor is a very personal thing and some people just make you laugh more than the others. When you find the person who really makes you laugh more than anyone else, marry them, and that's my advice. You are almost guaranteed to fancy them because anyone who makes you laugh will be hugely attractive.
Marrying the person who makes you laugh is absolutely the right thing to do and never compromise on your sense of humor because it really is your top priority.
Finally when next you meet someone with gorgeous legs, sexy eyes, or a cute smile, don't be seduced straight away, see if they can tickle you without touching first. Laughing makes you live longer.
Tuesday 11 October 2016
You will know when you meet your Mr right.
To be honest, i am not sure if this is entirely true. Some people do know the instant they meet their future partner and that is the person they've been looking for all their life but it doesn't work like that for everyone.
The rule is if you're not sure if this is the right person don't take a gamble on it, because if they are the right one you will know it even if it takes a bit of time. In other word if its right you will be sure, either straight away or a bit later - but you will know.
If you're absolutely sure this is the right person the moment you clap eyes on them, you're very lucky. The important thing though is not to commit yourself until you're certain. How many divorced people have you heard say "do you know even in my wedding day i was wondering if i was doing the right thing"
Well i can tell you, if you're still wondering about it even on your wedding day, then no "you're not doing the right thing" what you're doing is a big mistake.
Its lunacy to enter into marriage when without even being certain about it.
If you aren't sure right at the beginning then that's normal, it may take weeks, months, or even years to be sure, its all fine, you shouldn't be making a permanent commitment when you're not sure. We are all different, don't be pressurized into making a decision before you're ready.
If this is the right person for you to be spending the rest of your life with, you wont be thinking about it. But if you're not sure you will definitely be thinking about it. Look before you leap.
The rule is if you're not sure if this is the right person don't take a gamble on it, because if they are the right one you will know it even if it takes a bit of time. In other word if its right you will be sure, either straight away or a bit later - but you will know.
If you're absolutely sure this is the right person the moment you clap eyes on them, you're very lucky. The important thing though is not to commit yourself until you're certain. How many divorced people have you heard say "do you know even in my wedding day i was wondering if i was doing the right thing"
Well i can tell you, if you're still wondering about it even on your wedding day, then no "you're not doing the right thing" what you're doing is a big mistake.
Its lunacy to enter into marriage when without even being certain about it.
If you aren't sure right at the beginning then that's normal, it may take weeks, months, or even years to be sure, its all fine, you shouldn't be making a permanent commitment when you're not sure. We are all different, don't be pressurized into making a decision before you're ready.
If this is the right person for you to be spending the rest of your life with, you wont be thinking about it. But if you're not sure you will definitely be thinking about it. Look before you leap.
Scared of being alone
I have heard of people who are always in a relationship, the kinda relationship whereby the moment one relationship ends, another is started, and it got to be that this set of people don't like being on their own and alone, so they make sure staying alone, lonely and bored never happens. In a process you breed yourself to this extent of moving from one relationship to the other without love just for the fear of being alone when u finally find no love from anybody, you try to be happy on your own feeling there's no good man or woman out there. You now set a standard higher for yourself that nobody can put up with, you focus fully on your job and career and make huge money to the extent no man or woman would wanna dare come too close to you to get to know you, cos you're so rich and you have a very fat bank account, you live a very flamboyant life.
****Too many people stay in unhappy relationship because they are scared to be alone.*****
Being alone is great cos it makes you focus but having someone is better cos it makes you feel loved and you have a shoulder to lean on. No man or woman is an island.
****Too many people stay in unhappy relationship because they are scared to be alone.*****
Being alone is great cos it makes you focus but having someone is better cos it makes you feel loved and you have a shoulder to lean on. No man or woman is an island.
Get over it before you get on with it.
We all get battered and bruised by life and that's Inevitable. Some of us come off worse than others, Its the past relationship scars that gives us character and that's the more reason we may need to recover before we get into a new relationship.
In your last relationship, you've been left with a bit of an emotional wreck, its better to repair your damage before you look for a new relationship, lover or partner. Otherwise you wont be able to show them the real you, and you wont be able to focus on them. Lots of people today go for strong and independent lovers and partner.
Do yourself a favor, go away and hide yourself while you lick your wounds. Enjoy your friends and your family and wait until you've recovered a bit before you start looking for a new partner. And when you do find a new partner make sure you pic someone whose scar are relatively well healed too because this works the other way round as well, that way you both can see each other as you really are and start your relationship the best way ever.
In your last relationship, you've been left with a bit of an emotional wreck, its better to repair your damage before you look for a new relationship, lover or partner. Otherwise you wont be able to show them the real you, and you wont be able to focus on them. Lots of people today go for strong and independent lovers and partner.
Do yourself a favor, go away and hide yourself while you lick your wounds. Enjoy your friends and your family and wait until you've recovered a bit before you start looking for a new partner. And when you do find a new partner make sure you pic someone whose scar are relatively well healed too because this works the other way round as well, that way you both can see each other as you really are and start your relationship the best way ever.
Lets talk about Learning to Always be Ourselves
Isn't it just so tempting to re-invent yourself when you meet someone new who really tickles your fancy. and you try to be what you're not. You could become really sophisticated and mysterious. You might manage to pretend what you're not for a month or two but its gonna be tough keeping it up forever. Just imagine someone pretend to be what he or she isn't just to date someone and not wanting to lose the person for a period of 2 years and that would definitely suppress his or her natural sense of humor.
Would you really want a lifetime of lurking behind some sham personality you created just for the fear of not wanting to lose the person you care about. And suppose they find out you're fake in a month or two, when you finally crack open. They are not gonna be impressed nor would you be either, and you wont even be happy if someone pretends to be someone else and at the end it cracks open and you find the truth, you might just leave the persons life for fear of danger and insecurity.
Lets learn to be organised and not negative, changing you behavior is fine and good, the rule is about changing your basic personality and that won't work and you would end up roping yourself and trying to do it convincingly.
The truth is always be your self , you might as well get it all out in the open now. And if that's not what they are looking for, at least you wont get in too deep before they find out. Don't fake be real and you will attract someone who really loves you for you whether rich or poor. Be real to yourself because that's your unique charm.
Would you really want a lifetime of lurking behind some sham personality you created just for the fear of not wanting to lose the person you care about. And suppose they find out you're fake in a month or two, when you finally crack open. They are not gonna be impressed nor would you be either, and you wont even be happy if someone pretends to be someone else and at the end it cracks open and you find the truth, you might just leave the persons life for fear of danger and insecurity.
Lets learn to be organised and not negative, changing you behavior is fine and good, the rule is about changing your basic personality and that won't work and you would end up roping yourself and trying to do it convincingly.
The truth is always be your self , you might as well get it all out in the open now. And if that's not what they are looking for, at least you wont get in too deep before they find out. Don't fake be real and you will attract someone who really loves you for you whether rich or poor. Be real to yourself because that's your unique charm.
Major Reason why Abstinence is the Best.
Sex is better in marriage:
The fact of the matter is that when you get married you have the opportunity to have the best sex you will ever have, without the fear of STD, Aids or pregnancy. With communication and care a married couple can grow tighter sexually to the point where they understand each others need and want and satisfy each other.
You can avoid Unwanted pregnancy:
Many young girls end up with unwanted pregnancies and most of them find it difficult to get married. take your time when you're young, you have a lot of living ahead. In marriage you don't need to put yourself in the danger zone and keep worrying yourself every month if your period is late or you feeling sick.
Sex drive:
It is difficult to control your sex drive when it has been aroused. The sex drive is very powerful and once you experience sex, the need for sex become greater, Its much harder to fight sexual urge after you have been sexually active than if you haven't been sexually active.
Your value is increased:
I find it really amazing that every guy wanna marry a virgin, even guys that are sexually active themselves want a virgin for a wife, people don't like used properties. most people if they had a choice they would want a brand new car over a used car because new cars have higher values until they have been driven for a while.
The fact of the matter is that when you get married you have the opportunity to have the best sex you will ever have, without the fear of STD, Aids or pregnancy. With communication and care a married couple can grow tighter sexually to the point where they understand each others need and want and satisfy each other.
You can avoid Unwanted pregnancy:
Many young girls end up with unwanted pregnancies and most of them find it difficult to get married. take your time when you're young, you have a lot of living ahead. In marriage you don't need to put yourself in the danger zone and keep worrying yourself every month if your period is late or you feeling sick.
Sex drive:
It is difficult to control your sex drive when it has been aroused. The sex drive is very powerful and once you experience sex, the need for sex become greater, Its much harder to fight sexual urge after you have been sexually active than if you haven't been sexually active.
Your value is increased:
I find it really amazing that every guy wanna marry a virgin, even guys that are sexually active themselves want a virgin for a wife, people don't like used properties. most people if they had a choice they would want a brand new car over a used car because new cars have higher values until they have been driven for a while.
What is this Dating stuff?
This is a very big topic for teens and adults, you see it in movies and kids talk about it in high school and college campuses. By definition to me dating simply means where two people of the opposite sex arrange to go out somewhere together.
so what really should someone do on a date? enjoy yourself in a non threatening environment.
Before you go out on a date you should have a plan, because if there is no plan then you tend to drift from one thing to another.
so what really should someone do on a date? enjoy yourself in a non threatening environment.
Before you go out on a date you should have a plan, because if there is no plan then you tend to drift from one thing to another.
- It is always important to respect the wishes of your date by getting them home at the time scheduled.
- If as young teen and you're going for a date and your parents have established a curfew, honor that curfew.
- Always treat your date with respect.
- learn to act like a gentleman and practice things that would make you a good husband in the future.
- For the Ladies i feel you should act like ladies when you're on a date.
- Don't aggressively pursue a guy and show him that you don't have standards.
- In a date give each other the opportunity to treat the other the way you would desire to be treated.
Tips for Guys & Girls (Part 3 )
- The more you know about the purpose of sex, the less likely you are to abuse it.
- Men are designed as givers and women are designed as receivers.
- Learn to treat the opposite sex good while you are young.
- Never confuse having a good time with being in love.
- Women will always be more delicate than male, give them adequate attention.
- A woman is naturally more emotional.
- Infatuation is when you're madly in love all by yourself and only you know it.
- Choose an interesting person, with nurtured background and a good goal in life.
- Trust is most important in a relationship, if you cannot trust someone then you have no relationship.
- When you fall in love, you might just as quickly fall out of love,
- Get an education and develop yourself as an individual.
- Only God knows and can really help us become the best.
- Put your trust and faith in God.
- Never play around in relationship by leading the opposite sex.
- Always be kind and considerate to others.
- The most difficult relationship is the long distance relationship, Be prayerful.
- Have self control over yourself.
- Do not judge people by physical appearance.
- The most beautiful, cutest and handsome is not always the best, look before you leap.
Tips for Guys & Girls (Part 2 )
- Be careful of guys that makes big promises, in most cases they cannot and will never deliver
- You only have one body, If you damage it there is no replacement.
- The Aids Virus is many times smaller than the sperm, you can get Aids much more quickly than you can get pregnant.
- STD have no socioeconomic or class preference.
- Pregnancy can occur from your first sexual experience.
- Those who give in to sexual pressure now losses out later in life.
- Most men who are sexually active prefers virgins when they want to get married.
- Animals have sex by instinct, human are suppose to have sex by choice.
- Sex and Love are very different, Sex is a desire, while Love is a decision.
- Sex never causes people to fall in love cos if sex do , then the world would be a lovable place.
- Love can be expressed sexually in the right time(marriage).
- Love create feelings,
- The fastest ticket to misery is rushing to fall in love, you rush into a relationship you rush out.
- True friends are friends who respects your convictions.
- Always listen to love songs and be careful what you feed your mind.
- Learn to make friends because friends can become good lovers in time to come.
- Love is patient and kind, be careful of inpatient love.
- There is no school for love and relationship, you have to educate yourself before you enter.
- If you have failed sexually, it does not mean you have to stay in failure, Get up and move on.
- Men do not prefer ladies who have had babies for other men.
- It is easier and better to know a real person as a friend and not as a lover.
- Time is one of the greatest asset, Use time as an asset by not rushing into a relationship.
Tips for guys and girls (Part 1)
- The way you dress determines your value, you dress like a ho and you will be treated like a ho, men are stimulated by sight.
- Learn to control your desires.
- Learn to zip up.
- You can tell what direction a person wants to go to by his attitude and behavior.
- Never enter a relationship to change someone.
- Do not advertise what is not for sale, keep hidden the part of your body meant to be private.
- Guys takes affection more seriously than girls, an innocent gesture by a female may be taken as a sexual interest.
- Be careful of a guy who would come to your house and meet your parents and act the part of a good boy, only to take advantage of you later.
- If he or she say " if you love me you will do it" this is a slightly clear sign that they don't care, people who love you don't pressurize you into doing things you don't intend doing.
- Never get into a relationship with a person who has no clear plans for the future.
- Avoid putting yourself in a position to be a victim of rape, keep yourself from private situations and private bedroom situations.
- Alcohol ans drugs are a prescription of sexual compromise, virgins should stay away from Alcohol.
- All humans have same hormones.
- Go out with persons you believe you know and trust, and not total strangers. and even if you must go out with a stranger, it should be in a public environment.
- Never try to buy someone affection, the more you spend the more you will actually lose.
- Good looks are important, but good characters is much more important.
- There is nothing wrong in making yourself physically attractive as long as it does not become an obsession.
- Learn to be patient with life and yourself.
- Love takes time to be understood and developed.
- Never rush Love.
- Before you buy a car, purchase real estate, this is a valuable asset whenever you get married.
- Count the cost before you take off your clothes, are you willing to take the price?
- Infatuation is often disguised as love, but disappointingly its never the same.
- Premarital sex is never free, someone always pay in one way or the other.
- Don't let others buy you expensive gifts, they will always want something in return for their money.
Lets talk about Flirtation (Flirting)
Another sexual issue that needs attention is the whole idea of flirting. Many people give the wrong message about the opposite sex. Many young people play sexual games where they signal left and go right or signal right and go left. It is very important not to lead others on. Mind the way you receive gifts or favors when you know you're not interested in the person.
Flirting can cause emotional strain and lead to nasty endings. Always be very clear in your communication, never allow others to misinterpret your words or deeds. This may take some vigilance on you part but communication is the key to success in any area of life. Make sure you communicate truth, do not play with fire.
Most of our ladies today are materialistic and they know it and its so obvious in our society today, they love clothes, shoes, bags, jewelries, Brazilian and Peruvian hair. And most of our men know today that buying all this would woo the teenage girl to his bed. Our ladies need to be careful about material thing because they come and go, and you can never get enough of material things, you need to be contended with what you have. Be smart, be careful.
Flirting can cause emotional strain and lead to nasty endings. Always be very clear in your communication, never allow others to misinterpret your words or deeds. This may take some vigilance on you part but communication is the key to success in any area of life. Make sure you communicate truth, do not play with fire.
Most of our ladies today are materialistic and they know it and its so obvious in our society today, they love clothes, shoes, bags, jewelries, Brazilian and Peruvian hair. And most of our men know today that buying all this would woo the teenage girl to his bed. Our ladies need to be careful about material thing because they come and go, and you can never get enough of material things, you need to be contended with what you have. Be smart, be careful.
Sexually Transmitted Diseases (STD) Aids
Young people need to know about the dangers of STD, the chief of which is AIDS. Many of the most recent statistical reports indicate that teenagers are among the fastest growing group in the world with AIDS Virus and other Sexually transmitted Diseases STD.
Unfortunately you can never tell from a persons appearance or social background what their sexual history is and whether or not he or she may have STD OR AIDS Virus. You may never know. That is the more reason you have to be careful as a teenager or an young Adult. One encounter could produce a lifelong problem and even death, and its just that simple. One encounter with a close friend who you may have known for a very longtime, one encounter with your school mate, your neighbor, someone from the church, or someone you look up to or respect, just one encounter with anyone could produce the same result STD or Aids. That is one reason why Abstinence is such a good option today.
The problem of STD affects the good and bad, beautiful and ugly, the fat and skinny, and all in between. you have to be very careful of what the world presents to you because you just never know. So many people have found out the hard way in life that sex no matter how safe it seems can be dangerous because you just never know where a person have been or what they have been doing. Its so obvious that the best way is to abstain. I cannot make the decision for you and no one else can make the decision for u either , the decision is totally up to you and in your hand. Many young girls have sad stories and are left alone to keep babies just because they could not wait. Many young boys end with permanent damage or even dead because of having sex before the right time.
*****You have to make the call what would you do? ****
Unfortunately you can never tell from a persons appearance or social background what their sexual history is and whether or not he or she may have STD OR AIDS Virus. You may never know. That is the more reason you have to be careful as a teenager or an young Adult. One encounter could produce a lifelong problem and even death, and its just that simple. One encounter with a close friend who you may have known for a very longtime, one encounter with your school mate, your neighbor, someone from the church, or someone you look up to or respect, just one encounter with anyone could produce the same result STD or Aids. That is one reason why Abstinence is such a good option today.
The problem of STD affects the good and bad, beautiful and ugly, the fat and skinny, and all in between. you have to be very careful of what the world presents to you because you just never know. So many people have found out the hard way in life that sex no matter how safe it seems can be dangerous because you just never know where a person have been or what they have been doing. Its so obvious that the best way is to abstain. I cannot make the decision for you and no one else can make the decision for u either , the decision is totally up to you and in your hand. Many young girls have sad stories and are left alone to keep babies just because they could not wait. Many young boys end with permanent damage or even dead because of having sex before the right time.
*****You have to make the call what would you do? ****
Monday 10 October 2016
Sexual Issues (pornography and Homosexuality)
Certain issues have faced most young men and women, this are issues that few talk about candidly, still yet they are issues that must be addressed because people go through them everyday and they want answers or at least a recognition of their plight and some encouragement to help them go on and not give up. Now you may ask what are this issues?
Masturbation
Among males especially no other issue cause shame, guilt and denial like masturbation and its a very important issue. This is never a design for sex as far as i can tell.
overcoming masturbation takes faith, discipline and corrective actions, one should avoid movies, magazines and sites that incites the sexual appetite. The truth is over 90% of male at one time or the other struggled with masturbation especially during their teen years.
Pornography
The truth is we live in a pornographic society.what used to be X-rated is now R-rated, what used to be romance is now PG or PG13. Sex is now stimulated in program that people consider fun or harmless.
Pornography is one of those habits that can be very addicting in the same way drugs or alcohol can be. To fight this you must occupy your mind with things that will take your mind off pornography and minding what you watch. sometimes it takes counselling with a pastor, or a qualified counselor, it is very important to talk to someone who can offer help and prayer. The best way to kill something is to starve it to death, to kill pornography you must cut off the supply.
***Use channel block to block it on your television station or decoder/use internet filter to block it out of your browser.
Homosexuality
In secular societies today homosexuals are demanding that we pronounce this behavior as normal, The reality about homosexuality is that whether good or bad that behavior is obviously unnatural. First of all all human rectum are designed as an exit for excrement, certain thing fits and certain thing do not fit at all. Men and women are obviously designed to fit. A male receiver is abnormal and a female giver is abnormal.
same sex relationship on an intimate level will never be right and will always be abnormal no matter how many people that behave on this way. It can never be normal for a man to be attracted to a man, and a woman to be attracted to a woman. with faith and prayer you can overcome homosexuality, and stay way as far as possible from whoever introduced the peer or teen to such.
Masturbation
Among males especially no other issue cause shame, guilt and denial like masturbation and its a very important issue. This is never a design for sex as far as i can tell.
overcoming masturbation takes faith, discipline and corrective actions, one should avoid movies, magazines and sites that incites the sexual appetite. The truth is over 90% of male at one time or the other struggled with masturbation especially during their teen years.
Pornography
The truth is we live in a pornographic society.what used to be X-rated is now R-rated, what used to be romance is now PG or PG13. Sex is now stimulated in program that people consider fun or harmless.
Pornography is one of those habits that can be very addicting in the same way drugs or alcohol can be. To fight this you must occupy your mind with things that will take your mind off pornography and minding what you watch. sometimes it takes counselling with a pastor, or a qualified counselor, it is very important to talk to someone who can offer help and prayer. The best way to kill something is to starve it to death, to kill pornography you must cut off the supply.
***Use channel block to block it on your television station or decoder/use internet filter to block it out of your browser.
Homosexuality
In secular societies today homosexuals are demanding that we pronounce this behavior as normal, The reality about homosexuality is that whether good or bad that behavior is obviously unnatural. First of all all human rectum are designed as an exit for excrement, certain thing fits and certain thing do not fit at all. Men and women are obviously designed to fit. A male receiver is abnormal and a female giver is abnormal.
same sex relationship on an intimate level will never be right and will always be abnormal no matter how many people that behave on this way. It can never be normal for a man to be attracted to a man, and a woman to be attracted to a woman. with faith and prayer you can overcome homosexuality, and stay way as far as possible from whoever introduced the peer or teen to such.
Lets talk about Intimate Relationship
The next level beyond the casual level is the close level, someone cannot become close to you overnight. A close friend knows the life detail of his or her friend. It takes months of conversation and interaction to really get to know someone . Many people wear a facade, they pretend to be one thing and its only after a longtime you will get to discover the real person. The longer you are with a person , the more likely it is that he or she will let her hair down and you would get to see the truth.
My recommendation for teenagers is to remain in acquaintance or casual relationship because when a real close relationship develops the road to marriage has started and its not good to be on the road to marriage and not matured enough, strong enough to deal with it. If you think you have a problem now wait until you start to change diapers in the middle of the night, or pay bills. Taking care of a child requires attention, its a lifelong responsibility and mind you the older the child gets the more it costs to take care of a child.
Seriously there's a lot of living ahead,
A close relationship should be based on a mutual life goal.
Closeness brings familiarity and familiarity brings comfort. Its so easy to let your gourd down with someone you know very well, so if you see yourself heading in that direction, take a good look at the person and decide if you are on the same wave length mentally, intellectually and otherwise.
In an intimate relationship you learn to assist the other person to in fulfilling your dreams and aspiration, because the focus of intimate relationship is to develop character and bring out the best in the opposite sex.
When you're intimate you should not have more than one close relationship with the person of the opposite sex because its much too emotionally demanding to try to be close to more than one person.
Once you develop an intimate relationship, you should explore that relationship and decide whether it would develop into marriage, or whether you need to tell the person to return to a casual relationship.
Always set standards when it comes to the opposite sex, as in set what is wrong and right in the relationship, what you will do and will not do.
Set a Goal in your relationship, and know a lot about each others dreams, hope, career and ambition, aspiration and goal for the future and more so you should have similar type of friends who crave for success.
Never feel too right in your relationship always listen to the other party because its not always about you.
Advice yourselves and correct each other, admit faults and take corrective actions and this would lead to future character development.
My recommendation for teenagers is to remain in acquaintance or casual relationship because when a real close relationship develops the road to marriage has started and its not good to be on the road to marriage and not matured enough, strong enough to deal with it. If you think you have a problem now wait until you start to change diapers in the middle of the night, or pay bills. Taking care of a child requires attention, its a lifelong responsibility and mind you the older the child gets the more it costs to take care of a child.
Seriously there's a lot of living ahead,
A close relationship should be based on a mutual life goal.
Closeness brings familiarity and familiarity brings comfort. Its so easy to let your gourd down with someone you know very well, so if you see yourself heading in that direction, take a good look at the person and decide if you are on the same wave length mentally, intellectually and otherwise.
In an intimate relationship you learn to assist the other person to in fulfilling your dreams and aspiration, because the focus of intimate relationship is to develop character and bring out the best in the opposite sex.
When you're intimate you should not have more than one close relationship with the person of the opposite sex because its much too emotionally demanding to try to be close to more than one person.
Once you develop an intimate relationship, you should explore that relationship and decide whether it would develop into marriage, or whether you need to tell the person to return to a casual relationship.
Always set standards when it comes to the opposite sex, as in set what is wrong and right in the relationship, what you will do and will not do.
Set a Goal in your relationship, and know a lot about each others dreams, hope, career and ambition, aspiration and goal for the future and more so you should have similar type of friends who crave for success.
Never feel too right in your relationship always listen to the other party because its not always about you.
Advice yourselves and correct each other, admit faults and take corrective actions and this would lead to future character development.
Lets talk about Casual Relationships
When you get to know someone as an acquaintance and you find out you have a lot in common, the next level of relationship is casual.
Casual indicates this is someone you know, you share some common interest, activities and concern, you go a little deeper in conversation opinions, ideas, wishes and goals, as you talk to each other you learn the positive qualities and negative about each other.
In casual relationships you can point out things you notice and learn about each other, and learning more about your friend would help you determine whether you really like the person or not.
If you're a good and kindhearted person and your friend is not, its better for you not to get into anything if you feel you cant change the person, because the mix never works, if you're searching for a formula for disaster you wouldn't find a better one than light and darkness working together. Two people cant walk together if they don't agree, Light can fellowship with darkness.
Meeting and interacting with you may decide its best for your relationship to remain in acquaintance level because you're not going in same direction or compatible directions in life. If someone is a casual friend of the opposite sex, it means you talk to each other on the phone and meet in public places and even if you don't go out its normal since there is no physical involvement in this type of relationship.
Many teens begins with physical relationship when they are unable to handle them, casual friend does not mean elaborate dinner or spending large sum of money on gifts. if someone is a casual friend you don't go out and buy a gift worth #600,000 worth of gift, or $800.00 worth of gift, in any relationship both persons should be clear on where the other stands before buying expensive gift unless you choose to.
Too many times i have seen a relationship where a guy is madly in love with a young lady and as far as she is concerned he is just a friend, she doesn't know what he is thinking and he thinks she is thinking the way he thinks. Then one day she is seen walking hand in hand with another guy and you go crazy like and walk up to her to explain and she says to you "i thought we were just friends" huh of course he is shattered, he thought he was in love.
****Clear communication is vital in relationship, remember in a casual relationship you exchange ideas and note positive qualities in each other, you get to know more about the person , the family background, friends, who they hangout with, and what kinda parties they attend, if they hangout with wild friends or drug oriented friends. All this are important because casual friends can become close friends and you would not want to go close to someone only to find out they are going in different direction.
****Physical contact in a casual relationship should be minimal, maybe a public hug to say goodnight would not be unreasonable, but certainly not locking the door of your bedroom and playing under each others clothes. There is a proverb which is leading a thirsty man to the water is dangerous because he will definitely want to drink, you should never be in private situations alone with a casual friend.
**Samson in the bible was the worlds strongest man and yet he couldn't handle it, and David was a man after Gods own heart, but he could not stand the pressure of starring at a naked woman. No one is strong enough and even if you're, its foolish to play around with fire.
The truth is the truth, whenever you contemplate sex, you should also contemplate a family, paying bills and being on your own because they are meant to go together, i know we live in a world where sex pressure is everywhere and teenage hormones are stimulated by an environment with much sexual activity. countless teens in the world today who have had to drop out of school or get married prematurely, or who have had abortion can testify that its better to wait and do it by the book. Abstinence is the key. you teen years are some of the best in life, don't waste this wonderful years with people who don't care and just wanna use you the way it deem fits them.
I believe its important to have more than one friend for both male and females, having casual friends from the opposite sex gives you a better picture of what men and women are like and all about and you can compare personalities and interest to help u decide later what kind of marriage partner you would wish to have in the future.
Casual indicates this is someone you know, you share some common interest, activities and concern, you go a little deeper in conversation opinions, ideas, wishes and goals, as you talk to each other you learn the positive qualities and negative about each other.
In casual relationships you can point out things you notice and learn about each other, and learning more about your friend would help you determine whether you really like the person or not.
If you're a good and kindhearted person and your friend is not, its better for you not to get into anything if you feel you cant change the person, because the mix never works, if you're searching for a formula for disaster you wouldn't find a better one than light and darkness working together. Two people cant walk together if they don't agree, Light can fellowship with darkness.
Meeting and interacting with you may decide its best for your relationship to remain in acquaintance level because you're not going in same direction or compatible directions in life. If someone is a casual friend of the opposite sex, it means you talk to each other on the phone and meet in public places and even if you don't go out its normal since there is no physical involvement in this type of relationship.
Many teens begins with physical relationship when they are unable to handle them, casual friend does not mean elaborate dinner or spending large sum of money on gifts. if someone is a casual friend you don't go out and buy a gift worth #600,000 worth of gift, or $800.00 worth of gift, in any relationship both persons should be clear on where the other stands before buying expensive gift unless you choose to.
Too many times i have seen a relationship where a guy is madly in love with a young lady and as far as she is concerned he is just a friend, she doesn't know what he is thinking and he thinks she is thinking the way he thinks. Then one day she is seen walking hand in hand with another guy and you go crazy like and walk up to her to explain and she says to you "i thought we were just friends" huh of course he is shattered, he thought he was in love.
****Clear communication is vital in relationship, remember in a casual relationship you exchange ideas and note positive qualities in each other, you get to know more about the person , the family background, friends, who they hangout with, and what kinda parties they attend, if they hangout with wild friends or drug oriented friends. All this are important because casual friends can become close friends and you would not want to go close to someone only to find out they are going in different direction.
****Physical contact in a casual relationship should be minimal, maybe a public hug to say goodnight would not be unreasonable, but certainly not locking the door of your bedroom and playing under each others clothes. There is a proverb which is leading a thirsty man to the water is dangerous because he will definitely want to drink, you should never be in private situations alone with a casual friend.
**Samson in the bible was the worlds strongest man and yet he couldn't handle it, and David was a man after Gods own heart, but he could not stand the pressure of starring at a naked woman. No one is strong enough and even if you're, its foolish to play around with fire.
The truth is the truth, whenever you contemplate sex, you should also contemplate a family, paying bills and being on your own because they are meant to go together, i know we live in a world where sex pressure is everywhere and teenage hormones are stimulated by an environment with much sexual activity. countless teens in the world today who have had to drop out of school or get married prematurely, or who have had abortion can testify that its better to wait and do it by the book. Abstinence is the key. you teen years are some of the best in life, don't waste this wonderful years with people who don't care and just wanna use you the way it deem fits them.
I believe its important to have more than one friend for both male and females, having casual friends from the opposite sex gives you a better picture of what men and women are like and all about and you can compare personalities and interest to help u decide later what kind of marriage partner you would wish to have in the future.
Lets talk about Casual Relationships
In order to get a proper understanding of sex and how it should be operated we must first look at relationships. Of course we live in a world where the pressure to have sex outside of marriage is almost overwhelming to all teens . We live in a powerful world so we really need to look at what teens need to do to properly handle the day to day pressure of life when it comes to sexual issues. If you do it the right way, its much better and you end up in a much happier relationship.
In life if u watch you are always happier when you do things the right way. Most of our discussion today would be on how to build a proper relationship including some guidelines that will help you understand the boundaries you should consider in a relationship.
I saw her just the other day and i knew i was in love. The way she walked and the way she talked, i couldn't resist, i knew it would be blissful. How could i miss with this sister?
lol this sounds so wonderful and romantic, but so untrue.
*******you cannot really love someone you don't know period.
what is expressed here is a simple attraction, i like what i see, but this is not love. Too many people confuse attraction with love and passion with substance.
Relationship functions on different levels and there are rules to this level, if you see someone for the very first time or you cross path from day to day but never really talk much, this person is just an acquaintance or someone you just happen to meet.
*****It just not make sense to hop into bed with someone you don't know *****
*****Would you open your bank account with someone you just met yesterday?
You certainly would not do because it takes time to establish that level of trust.
You don't fall in love with acquaintance because contrary to the opinion love is decision that u make after finding vital information about a person.
Many teenager/Adult actually see a pretty lady/gentle man and decides this is love, when it really isn't love at all, suppose the lady's name is crystal and shes so fine until she blows your mind, you think you're in love, and you tell all your friends this is it, and later on after you really get to know her, you find out shes a flirt, doesn't really care about you and in fact shes only tolerating you cos her friends feel you're nice and cute,
*****would you still be in love when you find out the truth?****
The answer is "no" because you were never in love in the first place.
Love may be influenced by attraction, but attraction doesn't mean love.
the most constructive activity for teens is talking.
Meeting someone for the first time or seeing someone every now and then is just an opportunity to get to know them and to see if you really like them. you should decide whether the relationship should progress beyond the level of acquaintance only after you get to know a person. when making an acquaintance use that medium to communicate about everyday life with no strings attached then you would know better if to proceed or back out.
Don't ever discuss your intimate life with an acquaintance, because most teens today the most important thing to do is to relate to the opposite sex and how to treat a guy or lady right. If you are 17 years old you don't burden yourself down with complexities of commitment because there is so much you need to learn, you've got school and a career out there in the future.
In life if u watch you are always happier when you do things the right way. Most of our discussion today would be on how to build a proper relationship including some guidelines that will help you understand the boundaries you should consider in a relationship.
Types of Relationships: Acquaintances
I saw her just the other day and i knew i was in love. The way she walked and the way she talked, i couldn't resist, i knew it would be blissful. How could i miss with this sister?
lol this sounds so wonderful and romantic, but so untrue.
*******you cannot really love someone you don't know period.
what is expressed here is a simple attraction, i like what i see, but this is not love. Too many people confuse attraction with love and passion with substance.
Relationship functions on different levels and there are rules to this level, if you see someone for the very first time or you cross path from day to day but never really talk much, this person is just an acquaintance or someone you just happen to meet.
*****It just not make sense to hop into bed with someone you don't know *****
*****Would you open your bank account with someone you just met yesterday?
You certainly would not do because it takes time to establish that level of trust.
You don't fall in love with acquaintance because contrary to the opinion love is decision that u make after finding vital information about a person.
Many teenager/Adult actually see a pretty lady/gentle man and decides this is love, when it really isn't love at all, suppose the lady's name is crystal and shes so fine until she blows your mind, you think you're in love, and you tell all your friends this is it, and later on after you really get to know her, you find out shes a flirt, doesn't really care about you and in fact shes only tolerating you cos her friends feel you're nice and cute,
*****would you still be in love when you find out the truth?****
The answer is "no" because you were never in love in the first place.
Love may be influenced by attraction, but attraction doesn't mean love.
the most constructive activity for teens is talking.
Meeting someone for the first time or seeing someone every now and then is just an opportunity to get to know them and to see if you really like them. you should decide whether the relationship should progress beyond the level of acquaintance only after you get to know a person. when making an acquaintance use that medium to communicate about everyday life with no strings attached then you would know better if to proceed or back out.
Don't ever discuss your intimate life with an acquaintance, because most teens today the most important thing to do is to relate to the opposite sex and how to treat a guy or lady right. If you are 17 years old you don't burden yourself down with complexities of commitment because there is so much you need to learn, you've got school and a career out there in the future.
****don't get too serious and tie yourself into a relationship that will probably only last, until you both get a little older and wiser****
How many times have you seen friends fall in love in high school, and fall out of love just few weeks or months later? when you're young you will probably fall in love or think you've fallen in love at least 2 or 3 times a year, for some of you, weekly basis, Be careful.
Sex is more like a gift, and you normally give gifts to people you know well and love and whom you feel you can trust, you cannot trust strangers or people you don't know well, you cannot give gift over and over again to strangers, otherwise the gift would be of little value and eventual ready for the trash bin. Remember most teens fall in love 5 to 8 times in a space of 6 months and that is because you tend to give your gift to a stranger who doesn't care.
Sunday 9 October 2016
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Lets talk about Wrong Sex
Sex used outside its purpose is the reason for most problems in the world today, think about it, every time there is sex outside of our marriage today and the result is one of the following: broken homes, unwanted pregnancies,abortions,children with no fathers, damaged teens, Aids, death and destruction and this is just a partial list and the list could go on and on.
We live in a world where teenage sex is accepted as a fact its encouraged directly or indirectly, infact some folks sees nothing wrong in teenage sex. Sex is everywhere and in almost everything being done in the world today. The fact of the matter is that sex is everywhere on television, music, church, magazines, newspapers and its every way outside what God originally designed for it.
Teenagers are not discouraged from having sex, instead they are encouraged to use a condom. Telling a teenager to wear a condom is like telling a child to be careful with a sharp kitchen knife. Of course sex is safer using a condom and of course it reduce the risk of STD Sexually transmitted diseases, this however should not lead to the notion that a condom is a cure all and that you are actually safe, you may be safer but you are not safe.
A condom is rated as being 85% effective against pregnancy, you can get pregnant a few days out of a given month, but however, you can get Aids anytime of the month.
There are many children in the world today who have Aids and other venereal diseases and they wore condoms, its absolutely foolish if there is anything called safe sex.
One of the saddest statistic today is that teenagers are the largest and the fastest growing group of Aids infected persons.
Abstinence is the best.
We live in a world where teenage sex is accepted as a fact its encouraged directly or indirectly, infact some folks sees nothing wrong in teenage sex. Sex is everywhere and in almost everything being done in the world today. The fact of the matter is that sex is everywhere on television, music, church, magazines, newspapers and its every way outside what God originally designed for it.
Teenagers are not discouraged from having sex, instead they are encouraged to use a condom. Telling a teenager to wear a condom is like telling a child to be careful with a sharp kitchen knife. Of course sex is safer using a condom and of course it reduce the risk of STD Sexually transmitted diseases, this however should not lead to the notion that a condom is a cure all and that you are actually safe, you may be safer but you are not safe.
A condom is rated as being 85% effective against pregnancy, you can get pregnant a few days out of a given month, but however, you can get Aids anytime of the month.
There are many children in the world today who have Aids and other venereal diseases and they wore condoms, its absolutely foolish if there is anything called safe sex.
One of the saddest statistic today is that teenagers are the largest and the fastest growing group of Aids infected persons.
Abstinence is the best.
Lets talk about Sex (sexual intercourse)
No matter where in the world, there is one thing that remains the same and that is sex, Its the number one thing on the minds of various people both young and old. We may not want to admit it but sex (sexual intercourse) is an international pre-occupation.
Many people who should talk about sex don't want to discuss it, and the people who talk more about it tend not to know much about it. Sex can lead a girl who virtually know nothing about the consequences to get pregnant and have abortions that leads to tremendous physical and emotional scars which creates untold pains and sufferings.
Many times a young lady listens to a young boy who she thinks is nice and good looking also. She thinks he loves her and they end up having sex only for her to get pregnant, drop out of high school, delay or cancel college or university and she learns life the hard way to see how and what it cost to take care of a baby. It is then too late and she will ask herself : was it worth it?
So whats the truth about sex? The truth about sex is never a simple matter. sexual intercourse is very complex although the act is so very common even to animals, but in humans sex without resposibility is abuse. sex might be easy to get but not necessarily easy to walk away from.
Believe me we must talk about sex because we live in a world full of pressure, we live in a world where the purpose of sex is not known but the abuse of sex is the order of the day.
Many people who should talk about sex don't want to discuss it, and the people who talk more about it tend not to know much about it. Sex can lead a girl who virtually know nothing about the consequences to get pregnant and have abortions that leads to tremendous physical and emotional scars which creates untold pains and sufferings.
Many times a young lady listens to a young boy who she thinks is nice and good looking also. She thinks he loves her and they end up having sex only for her to get pregnant, drop out of high school, delay or cancel college or university and she learns life the hard way to see how and what it cost to take care of a baby. It is then too late and she will ask herself : was it worth it?
So whats the truth about sex? The truth about sex is never a simple matter. sexual intercourse is very complex although the act is so very common even to animals, but in humans sex without resposibility is abuse. sex might be easy to get but not necessarily easy to walk away from.
Believe me we must talk about sex because we live in a world full of pressure, we live in a world where the purpose of sex is not known but the abuse of sex is the order of the day.
Teens don't understand the difference between Love and Infatuation
Many young people of both sexes confuse love and infatuation.
Infatuation is where u believe its love and instead its more of an attraction. Many young people find the difference between love and infatuation later in life. A young guy might see a girl and think that he is in love because she looks good.
Infatuation is based upon fleeting feelings whereas true love is based upon interaction, information and intelligent decision. Feelings may be involved in love but its much more than feeling. Most teenagers are really not capable of comprehending what love is as in i mean real love.and this leads to many problems for them. Most of us have actually fallen in love many times when it was actually an infatuation.
Infatuation is where u believe its love and instead its more of an attraction. Many young people find the difference between love and infatuation later in life. A young guy might see a girl and think that he is in love because she looks good.
Infatuation is based upon fleeting feelings whereas true love is based upon interaction, information and intelligent decision. Feelings may be involved in love but its much more than feeling. Most teenagers are really not capable of comprehending what love is as in i mean real love.and this leads to many problems for them. Most of us have actually fallen in love many times when it was actually an infatuation.
Teens don't understand the difference in hormones
One of the biggest difference in males and females is a lack of understanding their hormones, you may ask what is the difference. For starters the dominant male hormones is Testosterone (write that word down girls). The dominant female hormones is Estrogen (write that word down guys). This hormones cause a male to act masculine and a female to act feminine. Testosterone makes the male to be aggressive and sexually stimulated by sight. Have u ever noticed how a guy would stare at every girl that walks by, especially if she looks good? Estrogen causes a girl to want attention, kind gestures, nice words, compliments and flowers .Estrogen causes a girl to want to play with barbie dolls, and to act feminine girls wants to be pursued rather than pursuing boys because their hormonal makeup is different. Men are men and women are women we don't want the roles being crossed because each has its purpose and this leads to what we call "good time versus relationship syndrome".
A guy sees a girl and testosterone tells him to go for her for a good time. A girl notices a guy pursuing her and Estrogen tells her she may have found the relationship shes being looking for. Through ignorance "good time meets Relationship" and they misunderstand what each other wants. Good time ends up with a good time (male) and relationship ends up empty handed because she didn't realize he didn't love her and only wanted a good time.
Lets face it most people don't have an idea of what love is, especially young people. you may feel like you do but 5 years from now you would look at yourself and say "boy i was stupid". you may know attraction, infatuations and good looks how to play doll house and may not know how much at all about what love really is.
If girls understood Testosterone they would move much more carefully. If guys understood Estrogen and the damage they can cause with the simple words they often don't mean, they would move much more cautiously and have more regards for the feeling of the opposite sex.
'good times and relationships" can never survive because they are different hormones with different objective. Its only through information and understanding that the gap can be bridged effectively.
A guy sees a girl and testosterone tells him to go for her for a good time. A girl notices a guy pursuing her and Estrogen tells her she may have found the relationship shes being looking for. Through ignorance "good time meets Relationship" and they misunderstand what each other wants. Good time ends up with a good time (male) and relationship ends up empty handed because she didn't realize he didn't love her and only wanted a good time.
Lets face it most people don't have an idea of what love is, especially young people. you may feel like you do but 5 years from now you would look at yourself and say "boy i was stupid". you may know attraction, infatuations and good looks how to play doll house and may not know how much at all about what love really is.
If girls understood Testosterone they would move much more carefully. If guys understood Estrogen and the damage they can cause with the simple words they often don't mean, they would move much more cautiously and have more regards for the feeling of the opposite sex.
'good times and relationships" can never survive because they are different hormones with different objective. Its only through information and understanding that the gap can be bridged effectively.
Teens don't know and understand the opposite sex
Most teens and young adult don't know or understand much about the opposite sex, eg most young men (most old men) do not understand women having mood changes during certain times of the month. Males may be vaguely aware that once a month a woman has to buy certain types of pad but they never really understand the effect a menstrual cycle has on a female.
The truth is that this simple physiological experience alters the woman's emotion and can cause her to act differently when face with the same situation at different times during the month. Girls dont often understand how a guy can be so aggressive and want every woman at least a few women at the same time. They may not understand why a young man may be less emotional and committed. The reality is that males are naturally more aggressive by design, their sex organ are designed to give. Their make up is design to pursue women and emotionally they may not have as many shifts as females because of the difference in hormonal makeup.
The truth is that this simple physiological experience alters the woman's emotion and can cause her to act differently when face with the same situation at different times during the month. Girls dont often understand how a guy can be so aggressive and want every woman at least a few women at the same time. They may not understand why a young man may be less emotional and committed. The reality is that males are naturally more aggressive by design, their sex organ are designed to give. Their make up is design to pursue women and emotionally they may not have as many shifts as females because of the difference in hormonal makeup.
Relationship guides to sex and dating
Relationship Guides to sex and dating
The average teenager or young adult often think under peer pressure and also lack information about the opposite sex , a common misconception guys for guys is thinking that a girl wants to become sexually involved , but what she really wants is a relationship and security. So get gets sexually involved in hopes of gaining this relationship, on the other hand girls think guys want relationship but not realizing they are only being pursued for sex . The reality is that in both cases there is a lack of information and each one is affected in some way. The guys cant understand why the girls wants to hold on to them, while they have other girls pursuing them for the same reason, and the girls cant understand why the guy's don't want a relationship.
In most cases its the girl who get hurt more and worse because she can get pregnant and her scars are revealed physically and are also deeply felt, she is also scared emotionally . Her emotional make up causes her not to want to hop from one guy to another, whereas a guys emotional make up causes him to want to go after everything in skirt that looks good.
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