Below are some habit that would help you create and maintain a happy healthy relationship:
Communication :
communication is simply the key and one of the most important qualities in a healthy relationship, however not everyone knows how to communicate properly or even communicate at all. Happy and healthy relationship have this game down., they vocalize their love for one another saying "i love you" often and offering compliments to the other. they also discuss the bad instead of sweeping issues under the rug. In order to move forward and grow you two need to be truly able to talk about your feeling, no matter how awkward and uncomfortable it feels, it will make a lasting long and fulfilling relationship.
Respect:
Aretha Franklin sand a whole song about it, so you know its gotta be important. Respecting your partner comes in many forms. Maintaining a joyful relationship means respecting your partners time, heart, character and trust. However there are many things people do in relationship that can break down respect, like name calling, talking negatively about the other to friends and family or threatening to leave the relationship.
Quality time and not Quantity time:
Its all about quality over quantity. It doesn't matter how much time you spend together, the most important is about the quality of this time. There is a huge difference between having a huge dinner and talking about your day at work, versus having dinner while sitting on a couch watching the latest episode of a tv soap opera. Its time to zone out together and enjoy distractions but very crucial to make sure you two are still engaging and spending quality time to maintain a very deep connection.
Time Apart:
Spending time with your partner is so very important but just as important as spending time apart, being able to do your own thing and remain independent is very vital, when couple spend too much time together, it can create an unhealthy co-dependence.
Maintaining healthy boundaries and some autonomy will make for a long lasting relationship.
Love language:
Gary chapman came up with the notion that men and women have 5 love language, people have unique ways of feeling loved.
- Affirmation
- receiving gifts
- quality times
- acts of service
- physical touch
Appreciation:
Often we forget to let other people in our life know that we appreciate them, we think it but we don't remember to show it. This occurs in our romantic relationships as well. show your special someone that you love him or her , and this could be done with cards, flowers, words, act of kindness or more.
Negative effect:
Sometimes we get in positive or negative effect, sometimes we hate our jobs, are annoyed with our friends, our boyfriend or girl friend is getting on our nerve. Nobody is perfect, so instead of focusing on our bad, lets make a conscious effort to look at the good.
Choose your battle:
There are arguments to be had in every relationship, its so crucial to bring issues to the forefront and work through the hard times together. I don't think its right arguing over irrelevant issue is wise, choose your battle wisely because people in happy and healthy relationship do.
Sex:
for couples sex is simple, the more you have it ,the more you want it, same as the other side of it, the less you have, it the less you want it. Spice it up couples and keep your sex life alive and interesting.
No comparisons:
most couples often make the huge and great mistake of comparing their relationship with other peoples relation and that's so very wrong, you don't compare your lives with others, what job people have, financial stability and clothing. The happiest couple don't look at the grasses at the other side, they are happy with the view of their own front door.
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