The next level beyond the casual level is the close level, someone cannot become close to you overnight. A close friend knows the life detail of his or her friend. It takes months of conversation and interaction to really get to know someone . Many people wear a facade, they pretend to be one thing and its only after a longtime you will get to discover the real person. The longer you are with a person , the more likely it is that he or she will let her hair down and you would get to see the truth.
My recommendation for teenagers is to remain in acquaintance or casual relationship because when a real close relationship develops the road to marriage has started and its not good to be on the road to marriage and not matured enough, strong enough to deal with it. If you think you have a problem now wait until you start to change diapers in the middle of the night, or pay bills. Taking care of a child requires attention, its a lifelong responsibility and mind you the older the child gets the more it costs to take care of a child.
Seriously there's a lot of living ahead,
A close relationship should be based on a mutual life goal.
Closeness brings familiarity and familiarity brings comfort. Its so easy to let your gourd down with someone you know very well, so if you see yourself heading in that direction, take a good look at the person and decide if you are on the same wave length mentally, intellectually and otherwise.
In an intimate relationship you learn to assist the other person to in fulfilling your dreams and aspiration, because the focus of intimate relationship is to develop character and bring out the best in the opposite sex.
When you're intimate you should not have more than one close relationship with the person of the opposite sex because its much too emotionally demanding to try to be close to more than one person.
Once you develop an intimate relationship, you should explore that relationship and decide whether it would develop into marriage, or whether you need to tell the person to return to a casual relationship.
Always set standards when it comes to the opposite sex, as in set what is wrong and right in the relationship, what you will do and will not do.
Set a Goal in your relationship, and know a lot about each others dreams, hope, career and ambition, aspiration and goal for the future and more so you should have similar type of friends who crave for success.
Never feel too right in your relationship always listen to the other party because its not always about you.
Advice yourselves and correct each other, admit faults and take corrective actions and this would lead to future character development.
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